Am I experiencing domestic and family violence?

The Domestic Violence Prevention Centre Gold Coast offers important information and advice on violence and abuse.

Understanding domestic and family violence

In a healthy relationship, both parties treat each other as equals and compromise to seek solutions to overcome their problems. However, in a relationship where domestic and family violence is occurring the situation is very different.

Domestic violence involves creating fear, intimidation, verbal abuse, physical abuse, emotional abuse, social abuse, financial abuse, sexual abuse, controlling behaviours, spiritual abuse, separation violence and stalking.

 

Signs of an abusive relationship

The centre offers a list of warning signals that may identify if you are in an abusive relationship. Answering yes to any of them may alert you to the level of danger in your situation.

 

Effects of domestic and family violence

Domestic violence can have a significant impact on your health and well-being both in the immediate and longer term, continuing even after the relationship has ended. The psychological consequences of violence can be as serious as the physical effects.

 

What about women who use violence?

Whilst the use of violence is never condoned it is helpful to understand that the violence used by women against their male partners can take several forms.

 

Domestic violence during pregnancy

Unfortunately for many women, pregnancy can be the beginning or escalation of domestic violence in their relationship. Research has shown that many women experience domestic violence during pregnancy and for some women their first experience of domestic violence occurs during their pregnancy.

 

Effects on domestic violence on children

The effects of domestic and family violence are experienced by all family members. Children who witness violence experience the same fear, intimidation and threat to their safety that you experience.

 

Impact of domestic violence on parenting

When domestic violence occurs in a family there is an impact on the mother and child relationship. As a mother your confidence in your parenting abilities and your connection with your children may have been negatively affected. The way that you mother and nurture your children may have had to change in order to keep your children and yourself safe.

 

Information about family violence

Family violence is when a family member threatens, harms, controls or abuses another family member.

 

Information about adolescent to parent violence 

Adolescent to parent violence is any behaviour used by a young person to control, dominate or coerce parents. It is intended to threaten and intimidate and puts family safety at risk.

 

Information about elder abuse

Elder abuse is a single or repeated act—or lack of appropriate action—occurring within any relationship where there is an expectation of trust, which causes harm or distress to an older person.